Resilience and the Three Ps

Setbacks and losses come in all shapes and sizes. It can be valuable to practice applying the principals of overcoming and finding peace in situations even when the stakes don’t seem high. If we practice the skills that work when the stakes are low, then when something traumatic happens in our life we increase the likelihood we’ll be ready. When we meet with setbacks and losses in life, the psychologist Martin Seligman found that there are three common thoughts that make it harder for us to recover: Personalization — the belief that we are at fault Pervasiveness — the belief that an event will affect all areas of our life Permanence — the belief that the aftershocks of the event will last fo

Revealing What You Want

What do you suppose happens when when a man lives his life seeking the approval of those around him and avoiding their disapproval? Several unfortunate things happen when we need approval: We avoid the truth whenever we fear it might not meet with approval We embellish or outright lie if we think it will result in greater approval The relationships we co-create tend to be ones where we’re a support person, a fixer, a person who absorbs our partners anxiety or anger, or a place holder We loose sight of what we want and need because we’re so focused on trying to acertain what others want and need so we can appear to provide it Those last two can be tricky since some of the relationships we car

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